If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say... A Vent!

I had an interesting night last night. It prompted me to decide to never attend a company happy hour again.

I knew that there would be some naysayers when J and I got engaged. We are very lucky to have a completely supportive group of family and friends. Still, I knew that there would be people that didn't understand and people that would think that we're crazy.

With that in mind, I assumed a simple "I'm very excited to be getting married, but thank you for sharing your opinion" would be enough to stop the comments. Apparently I was wrong. Last night while at happy hour, one of my co-workers sat down next to me and told me that he needed to talk to me about my engagement. Keep in mind- I've only met him twice before. I'm still not exactly sure why he thought that my personal life was open to discussion in the first place. He then proceeded to tell me that I will be making a huge mistake; that I need to wait for someone who has this, that, and the other; that I'm too young to know what I want; that he knows he's not my father but since I don't have a father to tell me this stuff he was going to do it; etc. Needless to say, I was angry. I was so angry at one point, that I was shaking. There were many times while he was talking that I told him that I would be getting married anyway, that I loved my fiance very much, and that my family supports this decision. I tried moving to sit next to someone else, and as soon as I came back from the restroom he started going off again! Finally I just started laughing. There really are some people that just don't get it.

Another one of my favorite things that I've heard- "Well if it doesn't work out, you can always get a divorce." Is that supposed to be supportive?!

Argh!