I had an interesting night last night. It prompted me to decide to never attend a company happy hour again.
I knew that there would be some naysayers when J and I got engaged. We are very lucky to have a completely supportive group of family and friends. Still, I knew that there would be people that didn't understand and people that would think that we're crazy.
With that in mind, I assumed a simple "I'm very excited to be getting married, but thank you for sharing your opinion" would be enough to stop the comments. Apparently I was wrong. Last night while at happy hour, one of my co-workers sat down next to me and told me that he needed to talk to me about my engagement. Keep in mind- I've only met him twice before. I'm still not exactly sure why he thought that my personal life was open to discussion in the first place. He then proceeded to tell me that I will be making a huge mistake; that I need to wait for someone who has this, that, and the other; that I'm too young to know what I want; that he knows he's not my father but since I don't have a father to tell me this stuff he was going to do it; etc. Needless to say, I was angry. I was so angry at one point, that I was shaking. There were many times while he was talking that I told him that I would be getting married anyway, that I loved my fiance very much, and that my family supports this decision. I tried moving to sit next to someone else, and as soon as I came back from the restroom he started going off again! Finally I just started laughing. There really are some people that just don't get it.
Another one of my favorite things that I've heard- "Well if it doesn't work out, you can always get a divorce." Is that supposed to be supportive?!
Argh!
12 December 2008
10 December 2008
Out of Hibernation
I find it odd that I can type just fine while listening to music, but only if I just have one of my headphones in. When both are in, chaos ensues in my brain. It's especially strange because when I only have one in, I can hear all of the conversations going on in the office and there's even more audio stimulation going on. Maybe one day I'll have to research the scientific explanation for that.
I haven't really updated this thing in a while because I haven't really known what to say. During day one I was kind of an emotional mess. Each day I've missed him more, but it's been getting progressively easier. Today is the fifth day that he's been gone, and for the most part I'm honestly doing alright. It was helpful that I knew about the situation before I even met him. I knew exactly what I would be getting into, so it's not like I was blindsided. The other thing that turned out to be a blessing in disguise is that he was underway a lot. It sucked at the time, but it was almost like conditioning. It has made this time a little bit more bearable so I'm thankful for that.
Another thing that has been really helpful for me is knowing that he really wants to be doing this. I know that he didn't want to leave me or be away from his family for so long, but he's doing what he feels he has to do and I'm very proud of him for that. When he got his new uniforms, he was sooo excited. When he put them on and came out I told him that he looked good in them to which he replied, "But you can't see me!" So silly, but it was very cute. I know that if he didn't get to go he'd be disappointed and so I'm happy to support him and be here waiting with all of the other military wives, fiancee's, and girlfriends.
In other news, wedding planning is making me crazy. There are about 10,000,000 details that go into one day, and that's about 9,999,900 more details than I want to deal with. I'm grateful to have this wedding to plan because it's something productive to think about and plan on while he's away- but seriously?!? I'm about to do some serious delegation. It's a good thing that we're keeping this thing relatively small. I am looking forward to dress shopping today. I know it's still a little early so I don't really expect to find the dress today, but I want to get a good idea of what's out there to make sure that the one I do end up getting is the one that I want. Maybe I'll post pictures of the rejected dresses.
I haven't really updated this thing in a while because I haven't really known what to say. During day one I was kind of an emotional mess. Each day I've missed him more, but it's been getting progressively easier. Today is the fifth day that he's been gone, and for the most part I'm honestly doing alright. It was helpful that I knew about the situation before I even met him. I knew exactly what I would be getting into, so it's not like I was blindsided. The other thing that turned out to be a blessing in disguise is that he was underway a lot. It sucked at the time, but it was almost like conditioning. It has made this time a little bit more bearable so I'm thankful for that.
Another thing that has been really helpful for me is knowing that he really wants to be doing this. I know that he didn't want to leave me or be away from his family for so long, but he's doing what he feels he has to do and I'm very proud of him for that. When he got his new uniforms, he was sooo excited. When he put them on and came out I told him that he looked good in them to which he replied, "But you can't see me!" So silly, but it was very cute. I know that if he didn't get to go he'd be disappointed and so I'm happy to support him and be here waiting with all of the other military wives, fiancee's, and girlfriends.
In other news, wedding planning is making me crazy. There are about 10,000,000 details that go into one day, and that's about 9,999,900 more details than I want to deal with. I'm grateful to have this wedding to plan because it's something productive to think about and plan on while he's away- but seriously?!? I'm about to do some serious delegation. It's a good thing that we're keeping this thing relatively small. I am looking forward to dress shopping today. I know it's still a little early so I don't really expect to find the dress today, but I want to get a good idea of what's out there to make sure that the one I do end up getting is the one that I want. Maybe I'll post pictures of the rejected dresses.
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